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What Is 'Gaslighting'? Examples and How to Deal With It, According to Psychologists.
It's been rising in fame for a while, being tapped as the American Dialect Society's "most useful" new word in 2016 and Oxford University Press' second-most popular new word of 2018. The term isn't new, though—we'll get to that. Yet, its rise continued, culminating in its 2022 honor as Merriam-Webster's "word of the year."
The buzz around gaslighting has led to confusion about the term's meaning. Make no mistake, though, gaslighting is harmful and, yes, legitimately toxic. Understanding the definition of gaslighting, signs, harms and how to heal can help you protect yourself. Let's sort fact from fiction. What is gaslighting, really? Psychologists explain gaslighting's meaning in simple terms and provide concrete examples and tips for coping with it in relationships.
Gaslighting, in a simple definition, is a form of abuse. "Gaslighting is essentially when one person tries to use mental manipulation to cause another person to doubt their perceptions and point of view," explains Dr. Jephtha Tausig,
Ph.D., a clinical psychologist. Gaslighting. It's hard to go even one nightly scroll without someone on TikTok raging about the unfairness of it all. Indeed, gaslighting has become a buzzy term on social media and in popular culture at large.
Sad Fishing
FOX 5 NY's Jessica Formoso reached out to Dr. Jeptha Tausig for her advice on a new social media trend among teens called "Sad Fishing."
"It's certainly possible that some people might be using this as a way to get more attention, gain followers, or generate more buzz on social media. The posts are often dramatic and cryptic, indicating that they might hurt themselves or others. Clinical psychologist Jeptha Tausig says that exaggerating your emotional state online to generate attention could be more than just attention-seeking behavior; it may be a sign of serious mental health issues. People may also use this as a cry for help, trying to reach out and get assistance when they're suffering or hurting. She recommends always reaching out to trained professionals for help."
6 Ways to Rebuild Intimacy After Cheating, According to Therapists
“Validating each other’s emotions is important during any stage of a relationship. But it’s particularly critical after cheating in order to start constructing a foundation for emotional intimacy,” says licensed clinical psychologist Jephtha Tausig.
If Your Child Gets Stranger Anxiety, These Strategies Could Help.
Dr. Jeph contributed to a Stranger Anxiety story on Very Well Mind titled “If Your Child Gets Stranger Anxiety, These Strategies Could Help.” The story helps to define the normal developmental process in children.
Your six-month-old baby used to have no trouble being dropped off at a babysitter, but now she wails and won’t leave your arms. Or maybe your toddler won’t let you put him down and clings to you for dear life, especially when meeting new people. All of these are signs of stranger anxiety, which is a normal developmental phase for babies and toddlers. Still, even though it’s totally normal, it doesn’t mean it isn’t distressing. We get it: going through a stage of stranger anxiety with a little one can be challenging and confusing.
Stranger anxiety usually starts in the middle of the first year of life.2 “Stranger anxiety is relatively common in children, usually developing around 6-8 months when a child begins to realize that primary caregivers are not necessarily always present 24/7,” explains Jephtha Tausig, Ph.D. clinical psychologist.
Is ‘Therapyspeak’ Ruining Your Relationships?
Dr. Jephtha was quoted in a story for Everyday Health to share insight on when using therapy speak can harm a relationship outside of a Therapy Session. “You can recognize therapy speak because it’s a language that’s borrowed from either someone’s own therapy experience or what they’ve read, heard about, or watched, notes Jephtha Tausig, Ph.D., a New York City–based clinical psychologist. She says she’d define it as: “Anything technical, uses jargon, and is not common in everyday communications.”
The 7 Things a Narcissist Always Does at the End of a Relationship, According to Psychologists.
Dr. Jephtha is included as a contributor in an article on Parade.com speaking about narcissistic behavior.
You came. You saw. You dated a narcissist. You're over it—or perhaps you have a sneaking suspicion that they are over you. Either way, preparing for what's to come post-breakup can be useful because, with a narcissist a breakup may not mean it's officially over (at least not in their heads).
"They are usually quite preoccupied with themselves—their wants and needs—and have a sense of entitlement, a need for continual admiration and relative disinterest in and disregard for others’ feelings and emotions," says Dr. Jephtha Tausig, PhD
Is 16 Too Young To Try Alcohol? Mom's Decision Splits Opinion.
There may not be a right or wrong time to introduce a child to alcohol, but clinical psychologist Dr. Jephtha Tausig suggests that the most important factor is having open communication when discussing the rules.
She told Newsweek: "While it could be argued that allowing children to taste or experience alcohol as older teens is best done in the safety of one's home, what is very important is that parents discuss their family's rules about this beforehand. " Tausig added that parents need to "present a united front," especially if there is any family history of addiction. If both parents are clear on what they are or aren't allowing, it's easier to help guide their children through those difficult years.
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Kourtney Kardashian's 'attachment style' of parenting can leave children with emotional problems for life, experts have told DailyMail.com.
'The DailyMail reached out for Dr. Jeph’s point of view. “From a practical standpoint, continual presence of parents is impossible: no parent can be perfectly responsive to their child all the time,' says Dr Jephtha Tausig, a clinical psychologist working in New York City.
'There are times when parents need to pay attention to other things, and it can be helpful, particularly as they get older, for children to become more comfortable with delaying their gratification.'
Not being able to delay gratification can stop children from developing a healthy amount of patience, according to Dr Tausig.
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What are the signs of Narcissistic Abuse?
“Narcissistic Abuse can cause depression and anxiety, shame, hypervigilance and feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.” Dr. Jeph
Abuse of any kind can have long-lasting negative impacts on a child. Some are visible, while others are not. And verbal abuse is quite difficult to recognize. Therefore, it is essential to stay alert and aware of the signs and effects of verbal abuse on children to get the help they need. If any child you know is suffering from verbal abuse, reach out to them and get the support they require. Help them understand that they do not need to put up with such hurtful talks and stress and raise their voice against painful remarks. During this time, you may also provide them with extra love and care to support them emotionally.
New Yorkers are feeling the impact of wildfire smoke.
Fox 5 news reporter Kendall Green contacted Dr. Jeph for her thoughts and feelings about the wildfire smoke in New York. "It does not matter your background doesn't matter where in the city you live. We are going through this together and are all equal in the face of this fire smoke experience.
Mother Nature has a way of all equal in front of these experiences, such as hurricanes, the global pandemic, and the impact of 911. The shared experience reminds us of our limited control, and people understand one another's experience because they are experiencing it together and simultaneously." says Dr. Jeptha Tausig.
Loneliness and Isolation
Fox News Reporter Sharon Crowley contacted Dr. Jeph for her comments on the Surgeon General Vice Admiral Vivek H. Murthy, MD, MBA, as he has advised that Loneliness and isolation are now a public health crisis. He says, "Loneliness can increase a person's risk of heart disease, dementia, and even premature death, lacking social connection. It is as dangerous as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day."
"Loneliness has been likened to one of the more painful human experiences, and the pandemic has escalated this feeling. For the 18- to 24-year-old, COVID occurred at some developmentally extremely important times. Many missed rites of passage, things like graduations, proms, and other life-affirming milestones." says Dr. Jeph