Since the election, there has been an increased level of stress reported by parents, teachers and administrators, which is impacting our children. It’s important to know how to talk to your kids about #politics so they know the lines of communications are always open and that they feel reassured you are interested in their concerns. https://goo.gl/pXCT9V
As parents, we have an obligation to choose our words carefully when talking with our children. This article highlights nine phrases that may do more harm than good. There are others of course, but this is a good start to ensure our children are building and maintaining strong connections with their parents. http://bit.ly/2mkRXOK
Parenting a sensitive child has so many rewards, but can also be a challenge. It’s hard to know when to help manage emotions vs. when to take a step back. My general advice is that it is all about balance between taking their needs into account and letting them experience the real world. My interview with @sheknows dives into this subject in greater depth. http://bit.ly/2kVTmsZ
Regardless of who you voted for in November, new @APA study shows Americans are more stressed now than before the election, with 57% saying the current political climate is a significant source of stress. Creating healthy boundaries in news consumption is one way to help manage this anxiety. https://goo.gl/5pFnMZ
Feeling depleted? Know when you’re dealing with stress or burnout. Burnout is defined as having three distinct components: a feeling of low accomplishment, detachment from others, and emotional exhaustion. @selfmagazine http://bit.ly/2k8OLmY
A troubling new study in the journal of Science shows that by age 6, girls already believe that boys are more likely to be “really, really smart”, with this perception steering themselves away from games for the “really, really smart”. See my interview and tips for parents with CafeMom: http://bit.ly/2kjgl1G
New research from the American Psychological Association shows school bullying linked to lower academic achievement. This is one of the first really robust, scientific studies that tracks children from kindergarten throughout high school. Results showed that kids who were bullied a lot have lower grades, dislike school and lack academic confidence. https://goo.gl/olJQjN
Rejection is a real fear, and people miss out on new opportunities and challenges because of this fear. However, rejection isn’t always a bad thing. It can actually serve as an impetus or motivation for trying to achieve your goals. https://goo.gl/3h4ePG
Had a great interview with Inc. Magazine on the science behind getting people to say yes to what you want. The art of persuasion is a powerful craft; see what research says about how you can increase your chances to getting what you want. http://on.inc.com/2hv5sIE
If you are alone during the holidays, it can be a stressful time. You may find solace in knowing that half of all U.S. adults identify as being single (so you are not alone), and many of those surrounded by family still find this time of year stressful. It’s OK to feel sad, but it’s also important to understand what exactly about the holidays is making you feel sad so that you can address it. Here are some tips I shared with WSJ on how to keep your emotions in check while being open to trying new things http://on.wsj.com/2hXc7vR
We all have our ways of persuading others to get what we want – putting on the pressure, having others make the demands, being nice – but a new study shows there is science behind how we ask that can actually increase your results. https://goo.gl/d5vRJ1
From eating everything they can get their hands on, to making animal noises, to drawing on their siblings, kids do some funny…and really weird…things. Here are some of the unusual traits kids go through at different phases — from toddlers to tweens. http://bit.ly/2gWQXRo
We’re all thinking it. How am I going to survive Thanksgiving this year, especially in this intense post-election environment? Here are my tips on how to make this holiday less stressful for you and your kids. Relax, be mentally prepared, avoid politics (I know, difficult) — maybe you’ll even find a renewed sense of peace. http://bit.ly/2genJhb
With the news of Janet Jackson becoming pregnant at 50, questions arise about whether getting pregnant over 40 is a good or bad thing. The answer – not surprisingly – is that it depends on the person. While there are risks that come along being an older mom, there are also many benefits, such as having emotional stability and financial security. More on this story http://bit.ly/2eichwz
Clowns are making a comeback, but not in a good way. There has been an increase of crimes committed where the perpetrators wear clown masks to cover their identity. Local schools have started to ban clown costumes, and community activists have even issued a clown warning. If your child is afraid of clowns, I offer some advice in this Fox 5 NY news segment http://bit.ly/2dLr7ff #clowns
Children have wild imaginations, which can lead to some funny childhood fears. Yesterday on Twitter, people shared some of their favorites, ranging from clowns, to the Kool-Aid man to department store mannequins. Most of the time, this is completely normal for children, as the boundary between the real world and the imaginary one is porous. More here: http://bit.ly/2cbiWuP #weirdchildhoodfears
With New York being on the top of the list for potential terror targets, there remains a constant threat that something can happen. Not knowing the “when” and “how”, along with the continuous stream of images from attacks around the world, certainly adds to an underlying anxiety that many New Yorkers feel. There are ways to cope so that this anxiety doesn’t overcome the simple pleasure in your life. See this story here: http://bit.ly/2c7Trpx
When you attend a concert, do you find yourself in a great mood afterwards? It may seem like common sense, but a new study shows that people who go to concerts are overall happier people. Learn more about why this happens and how we can all benefit more from live music events. http://bit.ly/2bHit2g
Television programming for kids is much different than it was a decade ago. With an abundance of options today – the questions parents are now asking is not should my children watch TV, but how much TV is too much, and which programs will they actually benefit from? Read more about this common conundrum today’s parents face: “TV Time: The Good, The Bad and the In-Between”: http://bit.ly/2auzKrD #TVforkids
If you feel like there is a lot of negative energy on social media, you are not alone. Social media brings a sense anonymity, and because of this, people often say more offensive things than they would if they were talking to an actual person. See the @FOX5NY segment on this and ways you can filter terms you want to avoid http://bit.ly/1OuytmQ
Sometimes the greatest stress in our lives comes from our inability to say no – to too much work and too many family and social commitments. Saying yes too often can be the biggest culprit to general unhappiness and exhaustion. Here’s a great piece from Headspace where I weigh in on the importance of setting healthy boundaries and recognizing what you can and cannot do: http://bit.ly/1WsVkQF
The magnitude of social media today has an impact on how people connect with celebrities – almost facilitating what feels like a personal connection. When a celebrity passes away, social media allows for group mourning. But, has it made the grieving process easier or harder? http://bit.ly/24fozJr
What are some of the factors you should be thinking about when considering summer camp for your kids? There are many things to think about…are they already asking for sleepovers, are they independent in their activities, are they still having trouble sleeping through the night? Once you’ve determined they are ready, how do you know which camp is most appropriate for your child? See my interview with WSJ Live to help guide you through this process. http://on.wsj.com/1Rg6F19 #summercamp
This winter hasn’t been too bad; however, there are still many people who feel down in the dumps during the winter season – sometimes resulting in eating more, socializing less and just feeling out of it. Here is an article I contributed to in Refinery29 that offers some simple beauty rituals, such as getting outside, taking a bath and even aromatherapy, that can help lift your spirits during the final month of winter.http://r29.co/1PiPvkP #SAD
Do men prefer HD TV more than women do? Fox 5 News conducted an unofficial study, and the results are quite interesting! Check out the story here.
SAD, or Seasonal Affective Disorder, is a type of depression influenced by the changing seasons. There are lots of misperceptions about the condition. People often refer to SAD as the “winter blues”, but it can be something that seriously impacts people’s day-to-days lives. This SELF article outlines six things people misunderstand about the disorder: http://bit.ly/1nx5YbF
Some child psychologists say that after age four, parents should let their kids lose at some games when playing against them — that losing from time to time will actually benefit a child in the long run. Is there a right or wrong when it comes to competing against your children? It’s not always black & white. See the story here and my point of view on this topic: http://bit.ly/1PjIotJ
Sleeping over with a group of friends is one of the best parts of being a kid, but how do you know when your child is ready? While some children are ready to spread their wings at an early age, others need lots of encouragement and time to feel comfortable sleeping away from home for the first time. Some good tips for parents here.
Is it OK to chancel Christmas as a way to punish your child? Interesting story about parents from Australia who are punishing their daughter by taking away Christmas because she stole candy. See my advice about this topic during a recent FOX News interview: http://bit.ly/1HUqufi
The term “depression” is often used loosely to describe a bad day at work or after a fight with a friend. But major depressive disorder is much more complicated, and there are specific symptoms to look out for. Learn more about how to recognize these signs and how to get help if you are experiencing depression. http://bit.ly/1gZTBSx
#Summersadness is a real syndrome and can trigger depression for some people. If you suffer from summer season affective disorder, or summer sad, know that you are not alone, it’s not just in your head, and there are things you can do to help deal with the condition, starting with a diagnosis. Learn more: http://cbsloc.al/1TIWc1S
A Swedish non-profit organization has released a new app using ‘abused emojis’ to help kids and teens communicate. The app serves as a tool to help children talk more freely about abuse and violence. It’s already the third most downloaded free iOS app in Sweden. Will it work here? See my interview on this topic: http://bit.ly/1crO586
Between tough bosses, busy schedules and expensive living costs — day-to-day life can be tough. While there is no one secret to achieving happiness, what most of us forget is that being happy is a choice – you have the control! Thinking about from this perspective can make life’s challenges a lot more manageable. See my and other doctors’ advice: @redbookmag http://bit.ly/1D7jZzX #happiness
While most people welcome springtime, some are negatively affected by nice weather. A small percentage of people who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) experience what’s called “summer depression” in late spring/early summer. Here are some contributing factors to why some people may feel down now that spring is here:http://tinyurl.com/pnx29cf
So many mothers tend to feel guilty that they don’t spend enough time with their kids. But a new study reveals that the amount of time she spends with her children isn’t critical – it’s all about quality. In fact, there are even times when spending time with your children can be harmful if mom is stressed or anxious. See my interview on this topic: http://tinyurl.com/pwg6mnq @myfoxny #parenting
What an honor it was to receive the 2015 Humanitarian Award from Dancing Classrooms this past weekend at their annual gala. Dancing Classrooms teaches children social, emotional and cognitive life skills through dance. It was a beautiful night, I am proud to be a contributor to this incredible and unique organization.
Tonight I’m honored to be receiving the Humanitarian Award tonight at the Dancing Classrooms annual gala.Dancing Classrooms, a social and emotional learning non-profit organization, helps children succeed and achieve their potential through ballroom dance. The program engages students in the joy, discipline, and teamwork of the art of social dance and creates mutually respectful and effective learning environments. It’s an outstanding organization, and I’m thrilled to be working with them.
One of the scariest new trends on social media is people sharing other people’s children’s photos and claiming them as their own. It’s called “digital kidnapping” – a form of role playing with stolen baby photos – and is another reason why we all need to be cautious with what we share online. See my interview on this topic here:http://bit.ly/1DEgeEJ
With January coming to an end, this is the time of year when people start to feel frustrated that they are not keeping up with their New Year’s resolutions. Oftentimes, people try to do too much too quickly. Hear my interview with Dr. Mike Smith on Radio MD on how to set goals that are sustainable, achievable and reasonable – setting yourself up for success in 2015.
Helicopter. Free range. Attachment. Authoritative. Parenting styles come in all shapes and sizes. Hear my advice on finding the right balance for your family, and why there is no one-size-fits-all solution. http://bit.ly/1uldsvq
The holidays are known as the most wonderful time of the year, right? The truth is, as we get closer to the end of the year, more than 70% of people admit to feeling stressed out. Between holiday shopping, bickering with family members and dealing with congested roads – the holidays can cause many people much unneeded anxiety. Watch my interview with @wsjlive to learn tips on how to de-stress this holiday season: http://on.wsj.com/1AXLJVz
Every parent and teacher can expect to witness temper tantrums in young children at least once a week. There are many triggers, such as getting up in the morning, getting dressed, switching activities or getting ready for bed. Listen to my interview with Nina Del Rio at 106.7 Lite FM where I suggest tips to help parents and kids deal with these tantrums, help to understand the underlying cause, and figure out when they are a phase and when they may be more of a problem. http://bit.ly/1C1eVPY
As the cold winter months approach, many people may start to feel that unwelcoming familiar sense – the winter blues. For some, these mood swings can become more extreme, a term known as seasonal affective disorder (SAD). About 5% of the population is afflicted with SAD between November and March, when the weather is the coldest and days are the shortest. However, a small minority (.7%) looks forward to these long, dark days, and instead, suffers from “summer SAD” – feeling depressed and miserable throughout the spring and summertime, when most people are itching to be outside. See my recent interview with the WSJ on this condition: http://on.wsj.com/1vbbpJN
Jephtha Tausig, PhD extending greetings at The Single Parent Resource Center’s Fall Fete.
Is sexting the new right of passage for adolescence? A new study published in the Journal of Pediatrics says one in four teens admit to sexting with someone. Before parents panic, they should know that this doesn’t always mean their children are carrying through; it’s likely the new way kids are expressing themselves in today’s wired environment. That said, it’s important that the lines of communications remain open in families so parents can talk to their kids about the permanence of social media. See my FOX 5 interview on this topic here: http://bit.ly/1vLxyB8
New findings from a PEW research poll show that parents are much more interested in teaching their children about responsibility and hard work than they are about empathy and tolerance. This is concerning, as children typically learn about kindness at home, which is likely more effective than any anti-bullying campaign. Parents need to recognize the value in teaching emotional empathy at home – starting at a very young age – as this can have true impact in kids behavior even beyond childhood. See my tips on raising kind children in a recent FOX 5 interview: http://bit.ly/1CtIaYz
Back to School! Your teenaged daughter, niece, or granddaughter may now be interested in her first job, and it may involve working at a store. How should she be treated by the store owner, manager, and other staff? If your teen is a customer, particularly for a special event such as Prom, what are the key things to know about teens to make sure her experience (and yours!) is a positive one?
Dr. Jeph provides suggestions and tips for working with teens as staff and as customers in this article in Vows Magazine Back To School
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Playing with your toddler! Sounds like fun, right? But many of us may need some suggestions about how to do this, especially Dads who may not always feel they know what to do. There are many games that are appealing for both toddlers and their Dads.
Dr. Jeph talks about cooking as a great activity in this article on Mom.me Games for Toddlers and Dads
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Suicide can be a tough topic for parents to consider. Although it is rare for children aged 10-14, it is still the third leading cause of death for this age group according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. If you know the warning signs to look out for, then you can get help right away.
Dr. Jeph explains when to seek help in this article on Parents.com Is My Child Suicidal?
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Depression can be an issue for teens and kids too. While not all children will develop depression, it’s important to know the signs and symptoms of depression if it does develop. It’s also important to know the risks of depression. The good news: Depression is treatable and most individuals experience relief with treatment.
Dr. Jeph provides expert commentary on Depression and Children in this article on Parents.com Is My Child Depressed?
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“Vamping” – To stall for time… How about this definition? According to the Urban Dictionary… “To stay up all night like a vampire would because once the sun comes up they turn to dust.” We’ve all enjoyed the occasional late night out. We may not have associated it with the behavior of vampires. But what about your children? Do you know where they are after they go to bed? They could be “vamping” and never leave the house. That’s right… They go to bed and at some prescribed time in the middle of the night they begin to vamp. They meet up with their friends on a social media site and hang out until the sun comes up.
The outcome of this kind of behavior is disturbing. Children need their sleep. Without it they are at best cranky. At worst the lack of sleep leads to all kinds of physiological and psychological complications. Check out my interview on MyFoxNY.Com with reporter Linda Schmidt at http://www.myfoxny.com/clip/10158074/vamping. Find out what the kids are saying about vamping and what you can do about it. Follow me on Twitter.
A recent study shows your child will learn bad words no matter what you do. By the age of 5 or 6 they may already know as many as 34 words you’d rather not have them repeat. Most of us are careful around our kids. How does this happen? In an interview on FoxNewsNY on April 24th Dr Jeph explained; children’s brains are like sponges so they are going to soak up a lot of what they hear no matter how careful you are. The best thing you can do as a parent is be aware and remember you’ve got to do more than talk about it or scold. You’ve got to model the appropriate behavior. Click here to view Dr. Jeph’s interview.
“Parenting in the Cyber Age” 106.7 Lite FM’s Get Connected
Make sure your children have the tools they need to communicate safely online. Listen to Dr. Jeph’s interview online at http://tinyurl.com/oeq5ysq
21st Annual Hospital Auxilian and Volunteer Achievement Awards
Jephtha Tausig, PhD was recognized for her volunteer work at The Mount Sinai Hospital at the 21st Annual Hospital Auxilian and Volunteer Achievement Awards. The awards are sponsored by The United Hospital Fund.
This winter’s frigid temperatures have left lots of New Yorker’s feeling down in the dumps. Learn about Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) – depressive symptoms confined to a particular time of year – and tips on how to beat the blues in an interview I conducted with amNY.
February 14, 2014
Keep it Real! While it can be fun to celebrate Valentine’s Day (which began as an early Christian celebration of St. Valentinus), there can be some common traps along the way. Many of these involve unrealistic expectations. Even with the best intentions, people can buy into expectations that can make them feel disappointed on Valentine’s Day.
3 Ways To Avoid Negative Emotions On Valentine’s Day by Dr. Jeph
January 24, 2014
January 24th is Fail Friday!
By this time of the year you’re probably looking at your New Year’s Resolutions and saying, “What was I thinking?” No doubt your heart or your head was in the right place but… Stop for a minute. Your heart and head were in the right place. Don’t scrap the plan. Rethink it! In this article on Daily Burn Dr. Jeph offers a number of tips that can salvage those well intended resolutions. How to Rehab Your Resolutions to Avoid “Fail Friday”
November 7, 2013
On November 7, 2013 I became a Fellow at the New York Academy of Medicine (NYAM). Fellows are selected from a wide range of health related fields including urban health, social work, nursing, education, medicine and research. This is a vibrant exciting community of health care professionals and I look forward to working with them to improve the quality of our health care.
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The Thinking Caps Group helps student acquire the skills and confidence they need to succeed in school. In October I was invited to write an article for the Thinking Caps Newsletter. Here is a brief synopsis.
Raising Children in the CyberAge
Smartphones, TVs, DVDs, computers, digital cameras, and e-readers, are a part of the environment that surrounds them. As a clinical psychologist, I am frequently asked by parents, teachers, and even children and teens themselves about technology. What limits should there be? How best to implement them? What is reasonable for parents to do?
Here are some suggestions that seem to work well in the fast-changing technological world we live in. Decide ahead of time what the boundaries are for your family. Where and when can your child text, post, surf, or play games on the Internet. Investigate the options available to you. There is a lot of technology that can help you monitor and control your child’s access. Basic safety rules apply: keep computers in common areas in your home.
Most importantly, trust your gut. If it does not feel right, don’t allow it. Technology itself is neutral. It’s what we do with it that matters.
Read more: http://www.thinkingcapsgroup.com/su2013.html
“Dr. Jeph Talks About Suicide”